First off, the most important thing. For those of you who have not yet heard, Louise Wong’s father passed away four days ago on July 1st. It was an unexpected blow for the family, and it really sucks. My sympathies go out to Louise, and I wish I had better things to say than just “I’m so sorry.”
The rest of this post is trivial and inconsequential in comparison, which unfortunately means that it will probably generate more comment than the first paragraph.
I’ve begun to feel that it’s pointless to discuss certain issues with my friends in New York. Aside from the fact that we’ve discussed many topics to death on numerous occassions, everyone I know here seems convinced that their opinion is the only truth that could possibly exist, and there is often no room for flexibility. Logic is often ignored, or manipulated incorrectly, to “prove” a point. Arguments often degenerate into childish declarations of “so there”, “fine, then” and “I don’t care”, and “you’re obviously wrong”.
Arguments with my Singaporean friends often result in an impasse of sorts, where both (or all) parties end up agreeing to disagree. We come to the conclusion that each of us have different opinions, and nothing we can say will change those opinions, but we happily wrangle for a few hours anyway.
Arguments with friends from New York end up mostly the same way, with one major difference. We come to the conclusion that each of us have different opinions, and nothing we can say will change those opinions. But every single person comes out convinced that everyone else is wrong, insane and stupid.
I personally think that everyone is entitled to their opinions. We are all allowed to have different opinions, and we don’t have to agree. But just dismissing someone else’s opinions out of hand as wrong, insane and/or stupid simply because they disagree with you seems… rather selfish.
In other news, Maggie has decided to implement a no-feminism, no-abortion, no-politics rule on the comments posted to her blog. She will delete comments that violate this rule. Coming from a country that has blatant and often undeserved censorship, I find that this move on her part makes me very uncomfortable.
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I don’t come out of every argument thinking everyone else is wrong, insane and stupid. Most often it’s just somewhat wrong, mildly off the wall, but never stupid.
As for the disclaimer on my part - it’s like monitored newsgroups: it’s not that I’m implementing cencorships but rather that I’m keeping the blog on topic. Since it’s my blog, I can choose the topic and expect people to comply. If people want to post about feminism, abortion, and politics they can post on the communal blog - they can even post comments to MY blog on the communal blog. That’s what the communal blog is for, I think - something that no one person can control. So, I really don’t think that me making rules about what gets to go on my blog is such a black and white issue. I don’t think that accusing me of undeserved cencorship is appropriate either.