Jul
5
2002
a few days, lots of stuff happened.

First off, the most important thing. For those of you who have not yet heard, Louise Wong’s father passed away four days ago on July 1st. It was an unexpected blow for the family, and it really sucks. My sympathies go out to Louise, and I wish I had better things to say than just “I’m so sorry.”

The rest of this post is trivial and inconsequential in comparison, which unfortunately means that it will probably generate more comment than the first paragraph.

I’ve begun to feel that it’s pointless to discuss certain issues with my friends in New York. Aside from the fact that we’ve discussed many topics to death on numerous occassions, everyone I know here seems convinced that their opinion is the only truth that could possibly exist, and there is often no room for flexibility. Logic is often ignored, or manipulated incorrectly, to “prove” a point. Arguments often degenerate into childish declarations of “so there”, “fine, then” and “I don’t care”, and “you’re obviously wrong”.

Arguments with my Singaporean friends often result in an impasse of sorts, where both (or all) parties end up agreeing to disagree. We come to the conclusion that each of us have different opinions, and nothing we can say will change those opinions, but we happily wrangle for a few hours anyway.

Arguments with friends from New York end up mostly the same way, with one major difference. We come to the conclusion that each of us have different opinions, and nothing we can say will change those opinions. But every single person comes out convinced that everyone else is wrong, insane and stupid.

I personally think that everyone is entitled to their opinions. We are all allowed to have different opinions, and we don’t have to agree. But just dismissing someone else’s opinions out of hand as wrong, insane and/or stupid simply because they disagree with you seems… rather selfish.

In other news, Maggie has decided to implement a no-feminism, no-abortion, no-politics rule on the comments posted to her blog. She will delete comments that violate this rule. Coming from a country that has blatant and often undeserved censorship, I find that this move on her part makes me very uncomfortable.


Maggie says:
July 5th, 2002 at 11:46 am

I don’t come out of every argument thinking everyone else is wrong, insane and stupid. Most often it’s just somewhat wrong, mildly off the wall, but never stupid.

As for the disclaimer on my part - it’s like monitored newsgroups: it’s not that I’m implementing cencorships but rather that I’m keeping the blog on topic. Since it’s my blog, I can choose the topic and expect people to comply. If people want to post about feminism, abortion, and politics they can post on the communal blog - they can even post comments to MY blog on the communal blog. That’s what the communal blog is for, I think - something that no one person can control. So, I really don’t think that me making rules about what gets to go on my blog is such a black and white issue. I don’t think that accusing me of undeserved cencorship is appropriate either.

Tim says:
July 5th, 2002 at 12:02 pm

Anytime you wanna argue… I’m certainly up for it. :)

Sam says:
July 5th, 2002 at 2:44 pm

First off, I didn’t say that you were implementing “undeserved censorship”. I said specifically that Singapore had blatant and undeserved censorship, and that hailing from that background, your decision to disallow certain comments from your blog disturbed me.

I didn’t use either “undeserved” nor “censorship” in reference to your blogging decision, much less “accuse” you of it, Mags. And you’re being rather nasty for very little reason.

I’m saying that you deleting comments on your blog disturbs me. You’re right, you have a right to decide what you want on your web page, but I don’t have to agree with your decision. Once again, opinions. Monitored newsgroups, or mailing lists which require each message to be approved (it is interesting to note that the only such mailing list I have seen is a Singaporean one), those disturb me too.

It could be argued by the Singaporean government that it is their country, they should have a right to decide what can be said/written, but then there would be a bunch of free-speech advocates jumping on their backs about that. For disclaimer’s sake (which apparently is necessary, considering the response I’ve gotten so far), I would like to state that I do not agree with the aforementioned opinion of the Singaporean government. I like free speech.

Rick says:
July 5th, 2002 at 3:27 pm

Having not lived in Singapore, I’m curious, what is undeserved about Singapore’s censorship?
Also the main reason there are moderated mailing lists and newsgroups is too prevent spamers or trolls who would flood the list or group with off topic messages and make the group or list virtually unuseable. I really can’t see how that’s a controversal use of censorship.

Sam says:
July 5th, 2002 at 3:33 pm

They censor all references to homosexuality, “sexual deviance” (their words, not mine), stuff that’s uncomplimentary to the current political party in power, etc. When I interned at a newspaper there, my editor was forced to pull a piece about a gay couple adopting a child, on threat of having her funding revoked.

Again, I didn’t say that mailing lists and newsgroups constitute censorship. I said that I’m over-sensitive to topics related to information blocking or selective information dissemination. Also, there are mailing lists which only allow messages that are considered “inoffensive”, according to the list owner’s abitrary rules. I’m not versed in Usenet, and cannot make a conclusion there.

Sam says:
July 5th, 2002 at 3:34 pm

ps. I obviously have very little to do today.

j says:
July 5th, 2002 at 8:36 pm

sam babydoll, my US visa expires on 31st december. if i do mange to visit you in ny before that, i’ll be there during mid-term. assuming those heathens from illinois do have midterm breaks..

and syn’s mom and my mom went down for the wake. my mom’s feeling rather shocked and unsettled still.

strangely, it seems to me that everyone who’ve experienced the wake deal with it the same way; by putting themselves in louse’s shoes, and trying to imagine one of their parents dead.

i don’t know. i don’t know anything anymore.

Whir says:
July 6th, 2002 at 12:07 am

Another reason my blog will never get popular. Censorship has it’s purposes. Unfortunately, that’s not what this argument should be about, neh? Riiiiiiiight, I’m just the new guy…

-Whir

thecomicman says:
July 6th, 2002 at 3:26 am

censorship sucks.

Agnieszka says:
July 6th, 2002 at 2:17 pm

Hm. So have the disagreements gotten worse since I left, or is it just that you have gotten fed up with them?

Even though I don’t know any of the parties involved, I’m sorry about your friends loss. In a vague, far off, general sympathy kind of way.

Regarding censorship and blog editing. Well, one could just *not* have comments. But it seems like Mag’s blog attracted a large share of vitriol. Whereas yours is relatively calm.

Kerry says:
July 7th, 2002 at 10:34 pm

Hmmm, things must have changed since I left. I seem to remember everyone disagreeing like mad, but all citing thier reasons for a given opinion. Logic was employed by many, and often to good effect. I changed my mind at least twice, and maybe some other people did as well.

Ikyoto says:
July 7th, 2002 at 11:14 pm

I also recall having my mind changed by good arguments… Ah, the dorktopia crumbles.

On a censorship note: The film I interned on some of the costuming, Zoolander, has been banned in Singapore for references to assasinating political figures in bad taste.

ET says:
July 8th, 2002 at 9:28 am

This may be a wrong assumption on my part, but I never took all the “You’re wrong!” and “You’re insane!” type commentary seriously. The problem is that those kind of comments start off as jokes, but then people get to the point where they’re not joking, or are perceived as not joking, when they make them. For the record, I respect other peoples’ opinions as such, and whether or not I agree is irrelevant.

It isn’t easy to have a dissenting opinion in this group, and you really need to have a dumptruckload of self-confidence to stick by your guns. Try having everyone try to pick apart your opinion because you don’t like a movie. Good thing I have a dumptruckload of self-confidence.

Erin says:
July 8th, 2002 at 2:25 pm

I think the biggest offenders of the opinion-policing are Rick and Adan. Dan and Hal and the rest of us join in from time to time, but I’m really going to have to point fingers at Rick. I think, early on, Hal may have started it as a way to liven up debates about movies. I also agree with ET - much of the opinionating was begun in jest, and it is still done in jest, although sometimes it appears less so.

It’s still better than arguing with my friends back home about things. I have at least one friend who’s infallible - it doesn’t matter how good your argument is, she always finds some way to be right. My other friends, well, we just don’t debate things with the same fervor. It’s actually way less fun.

Dave says:
July 10th, 2002 at 1:37 pm

I think it would be cool if there were a superhero or some superheroine who, faced with an evil villian, turns to the camera and say “I know… I can stop them with my logic.” Then the villian would say “oh no! I didn’t expect it to use logic on us!”

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November 12th, 2008 at 7:02 pm

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